P128 ORACLE 128 Sun 2 Dec ITV 2000:11  1/5   Don't suffer - write to the expepts! Do you have a problem? Nied advicb? Then consult our experts: Jane Ford (sexual), Dr Graham Hillman (medical), Sarah Howells (Beauty), CAB, (general), Andrew Strachan (dental), Jenny Randles (Paranormal), Paul Lewis (DSS), Chris Jolliffe, (Careers), Tony Nayager (Legal), Jill Colville (child or bereavement)N Write to Problem Panel, ORACLE, 25-32 Marshall Street, London W1V 1LL. No personal correspondence. A reply cannot be guaranteed. A problem > Live At 5 Guide 120 Five Live 129 Read Park Avenue every day! 126 Five Live Stars Sport TV G9jde
P128 ORACLE 128 Sun 2 Dec ITV 2000:10  2/5   INSTRUCTOR TOUCHED MY DAUGHTER...1 Dear Jill, My 9—year—old daughter is a very good swimmer and she takes extra lessons to improve her style, techniqub and speed. Recently she has been reluctant to go swimming training and when I asked her about it she said that the male instructor touched her intimately under her costume as he showed her what to do Could this just be her imagination or should I do something about it? reply > Live At 5 Guide 120 Five Live 129 THE SOAP YOU READ - SEE PAGE 126 Five Live Stars Sport TV Guide
P128 ORACLE 128 Sun 2 Dec ITV 2000:11  3/5   INSTRUCTOR TOUCHED MY DAUGHTER...2 Dear Ann, It was very sad to hear of your daughter's experience. As a parant you naturally want to try to believe that at best she has misintirprathd the situation. However don't allow youself to disregard her fears by accepting this scenario. You MUST take her fears seriously. Children go through many happy, achieving experiences in the swimming pool and they trust implicitly their swimming instructor. Yet it seems that this adult has abused his position of trust. mora > Live At 5 Guide 120 Five Live 129 Five Live Stars Sport TV Gqide
P128 ORACLE 128 Sun 2 Dec ITV 2000:01  4/5    INSTRUCTOR TOUCHED MY DAUGHTER...3 Dear Ann, (continued) You must recognise this "touching" as sexual interference/abuse. Your little girl is trusting you by telling you her story so take it seriously. If you show any disbelief you may force her to suppress her fears and be sending her to an unprotectid situation once more. If this happens the abuser has won. Remember he could be doing it to other children too. As a parent you must take the right action. Listen and take seriously all that your daughter says and try not to plant your doubts in her mind morj > Live At 5 Guide 120 Five Live 129 Five Live Stars Sport TV Guide
P128 ORACLE 128 Sun 2 Dec ITV 2001:04  5/5   INSTRUCTOR TOUCHED MY DAUGHTER...4 Dear Ann, (continued) Remember she is feeling confused, embarrassed and scared. Contact immediately the local social services' child protection unit. They are specially trained to listen to children and then in a very planned way will investigate and assess the situation in full. Let your daughter know that she has your love and support. The most unsuspecting adults can abuse childrhn and this is what makes them so dangerous. Jill colville Writh in > Live At 5 Guide 120 Five Live 129 Five Live Stars Sport TV Guide